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Two Words Packing Communications Punch

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Several years ago, a colleague asked me to do an informational interview with a young woman who was thinking about getting into public relations. Happy to do this as a favor to a helpful colleague, I met with the young woman on a Saturday, answered her questions, and gave her the names of a few others to contact. I never heard from her again.

The thank you, it seems, is becoming a lost art. Maybe the young woman didn’t know she should follow up with a thank you note. But I was offended at what I perceived as a lack of consideration and a sense that she had taken me and my time for granted. So much so, that the oversight still stings.

Thank you. These are two of most powerful—and under-used—words in business communications. When I was growing up (as my 20-something children would say, “in the dark ages”) I was taught that when someone did something for you, you thank them.  Whether you receive a gift, get some advice, or dine at someone’s house, you drop a note to tell them how you appreciated their thoughtfulness and hospitality.

Those social rules may have been eroded, but they remain important, perhaps even more so in the relentless pace of 21st century life, where no one feels they have time. Blame technology, the Internet, even a more relaxed culture. We too frequently overlook an expression of gratitude. But a proper thank you still matters a great deal.  In fact, it may even be something that sets you apart because so few people take the time and effort to offer thanks.

How do you say, “thank you,” and do it well?

Be authentic.  First and foremost, you must be sincere in your appreciation. A pre-printed thank you card or perfunctory expression at the end of a conversation is better than nothing. But expressing thanks is so much more powerful when you sincerely tell to someone how much their effort means to you or your business. How did their advice or good deed influence you, change your thinking, or simply inspire you?

Thank immediately.  Don’t wait. Send the note or email within a week after you receive a gift, a card, a meal, or a team member’s extra time to get something done.

Thank often.  If you are sincere in your appreciation, you can never say, “thank you,” enough.  The thank you is a sign of respect and caring that is impossible to overdo.

Don’t delegate.  Saying thanks is something you must do yourself. The kind deed or extra effort was done for you, not your assistant, not your spouse. Take ownership of your appreciation.  And avoid form thank you notes where you fill in the blanks. That’s not just insincere. It’s tacky.

Best formats?

The handwritten note. If time is not of the essence, the handwritten thank you note is still the best way, especially when you invest is a nice card or stationery and put on your best penmanship. The note doesn’t have to be a novel, but it should, of course, thank the person for whatever they did. More importantly it should talk about what their actions meant.

The thank you email.  If you feel too time pressed or you have the nightmarish handwriting of Freddy Krueger (like I do), sending an email is the next best thing. The suggestions above still apply.

The thank you phone call.  This is especially nice following a dinner at someone’s home.  It is highly personal because you are having a conversation. Be authentic. Smile over the phone to warm up your voice. If you get voice mail or a machine, leave a thoughtful message.

To appreciate others is one of the most human things we can do.  At this Thanksgiving and all year round, let’s remember to revive the art of saying thank you to those around us. We’ll all be better for it. And let’s make the effort to say, “thank you,” to clients, customers, employees, colleagues and partners for giving you their business, for making a referral, for sending you a gift, for staying late to finish a project—above all, for trusting you and helping you be successful.

By |2018-06-02T12:48:39+00:00November 24th, 2015|Categories: Influence and Thought Leadership|Tags: , , , , |0 Comments

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Liz Wainger
Liz Wainger is a communications expert who works with executives and their teams to craft and deliver messages that win. She is the author of The Prism of Value™: Connect, Convince and Influence When It Matters Most and owner of Wainger Group. Want more tips? Follow her on Twitter @lizwainger

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